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# Kate Heit

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## Posts
- [A Fulfilling and Meaningful Life: How Can a Positive Path Empower You?](https://kateheit.com/a-fulfilling-and-meaningful-life-how-can-a-positive-path-empower-you/): All too often, we can lose sight of what we want most deeply from life. Packed schedules and other responsibilities fill our minds and crowd out space for deep reflection. Distractions scream at us from every corner.  But finding time to set big goals for what can make our life meaningful and fulfilling is ultimately so very worthwhile. One key element to keep in mind when doing this is the importance of choosing to be positive.  Far from being a cliché, choosing a positive path will lead to enormous dividends while you go through life. When you approach life from a positive place, you are empowered to build and maintain a life with deep meaning.
- [What is Adult Grooming and Coercive Relationships?](https://kateheit.com/what-are-adult-grooming-and-coercive-relationships/): From anecdotal reports, adult grooming appears to follow many of the same behavior patterns as child sexual grooming as validated in the Sexual Grooming Model (SGM) report. Researchers are beginning to study grooming in adult abuse.  There is a shared understanding between professionals regarding grooming strategies and identified tangible tactics and behaviors that groomers engage in that may be recognized before the abuse occurs. The SGM describes 5 Stages that can also be observed in some of the alleged cases of adult sexual grooming as described below:
- [When Anxiety has Become Your Default Mode](https://kateheit.com/when-anxiety-has-become-your-default-mode/): Struggling with intense confusion, chronic tension and worry, intrusive thoughts, irrational fears, and doubts about your mental health, are classic concerns that describe an adult Anxiety Disorder. Often those effected have consistently worked hard to maintain mental focus and have made sincere commitments to redirect cycling thoughts and/or stop compulsive “habits,” but can’t seem to follow through.  You are not alone.  There are many faces and voices to an anxiety disorder AND there is relief from the symptoms and behaviors that disrupt your daily life.
- [Coping Strategies for Relating with a High Maintenance Parent](https://kateheit.com/coping-strategies-for-relating-with-a-high-maintenance-parent/): All of these are classic signs of a high maintenance parent, and one who typically partnered with a passive spouse who may be emotionally/physically absent and non-confrontational.  To say it can be both overwhelming and frustrating to be in relationship with a high maintenance parent would be an understatement.  Many times, parents form these behaviors because they are incapable of letting go of control and appropriately engaging with you as an adult. That often leads to a lack of trust and respect in the relationship that may result in you doubting yourself and/or feeling inadequate.
- [Changing the Narrative for Male Depression](https://kateheit.com/changing-the-narrative-for-male-depression/): Depression doesn’t know any gender. Nor does it discriminate. It can impact anyone. Unfortunately, there are still plenty of stereotypes and stigmas surrounding men’s mental health and male depression. While it’s socially acceptable for men to feel blue or down from time to time, that’s not the same as being depressed.
- [How to Get Off the “Pleasing Parent” Treadmill](https://kateheit.com/how-to-get-off-the-pleasing-parent-treadmill/): If you’re like most parents, you want the best for your children and you strive to see that your children are well cared for and happy. A fine line exists, however, between doing what’s best for your child and giving into your child’s every whim.
- [Adult Child Recovery from an Over-Bearing Parent](https://kateheit.com/adult-child-recovery-from-an-over-bearing-parent/): Parents can naturally be self-absorbed—even narcissistic at times—as they seek to balance and reconcile their individual identities with that of being responsible parents. However, when a caregiver becomes so self-absorbed that they project their own emotional needs, selfish desires and expectations upon their child, their child’s normal emotional development is arrested.
- [Are You Stuck in Uncertainty?](https://kateheit.com/are-you-stuck-in-uncertainty/): With every life event we can expect both opportunity for personal and/or professional growth and major/minor losses.  Confronted with a life transition we are met with unexpected changes and decisions on how to navigate a disruption in our life.  Tools for coping that have worked in the past may now be inadequate and perhaps detrimental to our emotional growth.  But what to do?  Challenged with that question and the confusion and/or uncertainty of choices can freeze us in a state of inertness.  In other words…Stuck!
- [Boundaries in Bloom](https://kateheit.com/boundaries-in-bloom/): Leslie came across as a pleasant older woman. She was small in stature, slender and well dressed.  She pensively walked into my office with a gentle shyness which revealed that she had a sensitive nature. With tea in hand, Leslie and I entered my office and we immediately assumed our positions as therapist and client. After a little small talk and some necessary pretreatment conversation, Leslie disclosed that she was seeking therapy to satisfy the stipulations of her probation.
- [Navigating a Path of Uncertainty](https://kateheit.com/how-to-navigate-a-path-of-uncertainty/): There I was living my life with a false sense of security…I had my Act together…or so it seemed!   Though the door to my inner world was creaking and showed signs of wear, I was lulled by the fact the hinges still functioned and I could shut out the world when needed.  When open for community business, I was all frozen smiles and fragile confidence, but behind my psychic door I was dog paddling in a pool of anxiety, regrets, and resentments.  Then came the pivotal moment when the mental games no longer worked and I stood in the doorway of uncertainty; confronted with the absurdity of my actions.  I couldn’t duct tape the hinges together any longer and I broke.  Just hanging onto the door jamb of my sanity was all I could do.  Internal voices pelted me with my greatest fear “I’ve lost control!”  The eyes of family, friends told the story of hurt and disappointment, and the ultimate judgement, “she’s come unhinged”.

## Pages
- [About Kate](https://kateheit.com/about-2/): Psychotherapy is a second career for me, and one I can foresee doing well into my late years. Every day, I am amazed and inspired by the profound changes that can occur when clients have the courage to face their fears and invest in their personal growth.
- [Philosophy](https://kateheit.com/philosophy/): Change is not only possible, it is inevitable.  Neuroscientists have discovered that the brain never ceases to grow and change during the course of our entire lives. New connections are always being made. The implications of this are huge. We can heal. We can change. We can learn. We can develop new ways of looking at the world.
- [Services](https://kateheit.com/services/): Finding the right therapist can make all the difference when you’re ready to understand your past and create meaningful change. As a trauma-informed therapist in Arvada, Colorado, I provide a calm, grounded space where you can safely explore difficult emotions, patterns, and family dynamics that continue to impact your life. Whether you’re navigating the effects of childhood trauma, struggling with relationship challenges, or working to rebuild self-trust and confidence, therapy offers a path forward. Together, we’ll uncover the roots of your emotional pain, develop new ways of relating to yourself and others, and help you move toward a more authentic, empowered version of your life.
- [Contact Kate](https://kateheit.com/contact-me/): One of the most important considerations in selecting a therapist is to find someone you feel comfortable talking with.  I provide a complimentary 30-minute video consultation. Message me to set up an appointment and cross that threshold toward positive change in your life.
- [Fees & Forms](https://kateheit.com/fees-forms/): I accept insurance as an out-of-network provider with most major insurance companies. Services may be covered in full or in part by your health insurance or employee benefit plan. Please check your coverage carefully by asking the following questions:
- [Adult Client Forms](https://kateheit.com/fees-forms/client-forms/): Mandatory Disclosure Statement
- [Victim Client Forms](https://kateheit.com/fees-forms/cvc-forms/): Manditory Disclosure Statement
- [OCD Client Forms](https://kateheit.com/fees-forms/ocd-client-forms/): Mandatory Disclosure Statement
- [Articles](https://kateheit.com/links-resources/articles/)
- [Social Media Policy](https://kateheit.com/contact-me/privacy-policy/): This document outlines my office policies related to use of Social Media. Please read it to understand how I conduct myself on the Internet as a mental health professional and how you can expect me to respond to various interactions that may occur between us on the Internet. If you have any questions about anything within this document, I encourage you to bring them up when we meet. As new technology develops and the Internet changes, there may be times when I need to update this policy.
- [Home](https://kateheit.com/): I utilize traditional talk therapy and holistic/alternative methods to identify the blocks to personal power and discover solutions to live a more fulfilled and enriched life.v
- [Adult Anxiety and OCD](https://kateheit.com/adult-anxiety-obsessive-compulsive-disorder/): Wonder why you're obsessing all the time, even though you work hard to maintain mental focus? Or do you promise yourself you'll stop compulsive "habits," but can't seem to follow through?
- [Relationships](https://kateheit.com/relationships/): Using a compassionate, interactive approach, sprinkled with a healthy dose of humor, I help couples to revive their stagnant relationships, renew their commitment, grow through their relational conflicts, or decide to heal and move on with their lives. Whether you are contemplating marriage, have been in a long term relationship, or are considering terminating your relationship I will support you to:
- [Childhood Anxiety Disorders And/Or Obsessions](https://kateheit.com/childrens-anxiety-disorders/): Have an anxious, fearful and obsessive child or teen? Frustrated that as a parent you haven’t been able to find a solution to your child’s anxieties/fears and eliminate the emotional pain your family is struggling to control? What parents need to know is that Anxiety Disorders don’t respond to practical solutions because they are not your typical anxiety that all kids experience at one time or another in their everyday lives.
- [Trauma and Abuse](https://kateheit.com/trauma-and-abuse/): It is often common to experience shame when a trauma literally knocks us off our axis. Thoughts of “I should have known better” and “did I somehow cause the trauma” are predictable.
- [Is it Normal Anxiety?](https://kateheit.com/anxiety-disorder-description/): You can learn more about anxiety related topics on the National Institute of Mental Health website.
- [Welcome](https://kateheit.com/welcome/): My work is characterized by intuition, compassion, optimism and collaboration. It is my belief that we are all capable of healing our emotional woundings with the support of a committed professional.
- [Types of Anxiety Disorders](https://kateheit.com/types-of-anxiety-disorders/): People with generalized anxiety disorders (GAD) have ongoing, severe tension that interferes with daily functioning. They worry constantly and feel helpless to control these worries. Often their worries focus on job responsibilities, family health, or minor matters such as chores, car repairs, or appointments.They may have problems sleeping, muscle aches/tension, and feel shaky, weak and headachy. People with GAD can be irritable and often have problems concentrating and working effectively.
- [CBT, E/RP & HRT Therapy Treatments](https://kateheit.com/cbt-erp-treatments/): A well-established, highly effective, and lasting treatment is called Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, or CBT. It focuses on identifying, understanding, and changing thinking and behavior patterns. Benefits are usually seen in 12 to 16 weeks, depending on the individual.
- [Pediatric Obsessive Compulsive Disorders](https://kateheit.com/pedatric-obsessive-compulsive-disorders/): In addition, interruption in their “routines” may create undue anxiety,frustration and hostility. Another sign that accompanies early onset of OCD symptoms is a marked and decreased sense of confidence in activities, schoolwork, and with friends. Given how scary and overwhelming the OCD thoughts may be for a child, it makes sense that their level of self-confidence would be significantly impacted.
- [Is it Pediatric OCD or Just a Phase?](https://kateheit.com/is-it-pediatric-ocd-or-just-a-phase/): As you have probably guessed, OCD is made up of two parts – obsessions and compulsions. The Pediatric OCD evaluation below will help you and your child familiarize yourselves with them most common unwanted thoughts and/or images (obsessions) that bring with them unpleasant sensations ranging from worry to fear to disgust, shame, and guilt. Your child might then perform specific behaviors (compulsions) aimed at easing those sensations or reducing the chances that feared consequences will occur. These are not infrequent thoughts or occasional behaviors but intense thoughts that just won’t go away and repetitive behaviors children do that temporarily reduce their anxiety.
- [Men’s Therapy and Counseling, Arvada, Colorado](https://kateheit.com/mens-therapy-counseling-arvada-colorado/): At some point, a man may recognize areas in his life where he is not meeting his potential and then he may seek counseling as a necessary practice to reclaim the person that he knows himself to be. At that existential intersection, a man entering into counseling, is no longer identifying with male stereotypes: weakness, or inability to help oneself, or, compared to ones peers, that you are less of a man.  Quite the opposite -when a man respects himself enough to invest in counseling he most often gains the respect of others for taking such a courageous step toward self-development.
- [Arvada Divorce Recovery and Co-Parent Counseling](https://kateheit.com/arvada-divorce-recovery-and-co-parent-counseling/): Through pre/post-divorce counseling, I help parents learn to change dysfunctional, emotionally-charged communication and behavior patterns by helping them adopt clearly-defined, respectful, and dispassionate approaches to problem-solving and decision-making.
- [Life Transitions Counseling](https://kateheit.com/life-transitions-counseling/): Truly, life is too short to spend it endlessly struggling over a problem that a qualified therapist could help you solve. Life transitions counseling can help you gain invaluable insight and powerful tools for overcoming the obstacles that are limiting your potential for greater joy and prosperity.
- [FAQ](https://kateheit.com/faq/): I am afraid of the stigma attached to professional counseling.
- [Family History Trauma: Healing Estranged Family Relationships](https://kateheit.com/family-history-trauma-healing-estranged-family-relationships/): If you grew up with a parent who was extremely self-absorbed, overly critical, and controlling and/or has a personality disorder (especially Narcissism or Borderline Personality Disorder), you may now doubt your ability to take risks and make important decisions as an adult.  Was your mother or father so overly involved in your activities, academics, or circle of friends that you felt smothered or robbed of your childhood?  Were you raised by someone with severe abandonment or identity issues that their behavior created chronic tension, anger or instability in the household? Or it could be that you experienced so much emotional deprivation and neglect that you now have trouble trusting others or forming healthy relationships.  If this describes your young life experience, then you may, as an adult, be grappling with a multitude of emotional suffering and broken relationships.
- [Closed](https://kateheit.com/closed/): Hi,
- [Adult Clergy Abuse : Healing Religious and Spiritual Trauma](https://kateheit.com/adult-clergy-sexual-abuse/): Clergy Sexual Misconduct (CSM), also known as Adult Clergy Sexual Abuse (ACSA), is any sexualized behavior by a church leader/spiritual leader toward someone under their spiritual care, who by nature is in a position of less power and authority.  CSM/ACSA is an abuse of power and authority, not an “affair,” as it cannot be considered mutual consent due to the unequal power dynamic. In the same way counselors/therapists are required by law to abide by a professional code of ethics and maintain proper boundaries between themselves and their clients, likewise, spiritual leaders are accountable for maintaining ethical boundaries and avoiding any sexual behavior with those to whom they are entrusted to provide care.  When boundaries are violated, the victim is traumatized by the breach of sacred trust.
- [Addressing Anxiety in Young Adulthood: Navigating Challenges in Career, Finances, and Relationships](https://kateheit.com/anxiety-in-young-adulthood-career-finances-relationships/): Young adults living in Arvada, Colorado and urban America often find themselves overwhelmed by the intricacies of modern life, including fast-paced lifestyles, shifting political landscapes, anxieties about the future, and limited career opportunities. These factors contribute to heightened internal anxiety, which can complicate daily functioning and overall well-being.

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